Therapy for Infidelity
Available for Michigan clients (in person or virtual) and Hawaii clients (virtual only)
Your relationship is not defined by its hardest moments. With the right support, healing, clarity, and a renewed sense of connection can grow from them
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Your relationship is not defined by its hardest moments. With the right support, healing, clarity, and a renewed sense of connection can grow from them 〰️
WHEN TRUST HAS BEEN BROKEN
Discovering or disclosing infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences in a relationship. It often brings up intense emotions, shock, anger, grief, confusion, and uncertainty about what comes next. For many couples, it can feel like the foundation of the relationship has been disrupted or lost entirely.
Infidelity therapy offers a structured, supportive space to begin making sense of what happened and what it means for both partners. Rather than rushing toward immediate decisions, therapy helps slow the process down so that healing can happen with intention and clarity.
At Adaptations Therapy Institute, infidelity-focused couples therapy is attachment-based and trauma-informed. We recognize that betrayal impacts not only trust, but also emotional safety and nervous system regulation. Our work supports both partners in understanding their experiences, rebuilding communication, and exploring whether and how the relationship can move forward.
This process is not about minimizing what happened. It is about creating space for honest dialogue, accountability, and meaningful repair.
WHAT WE FOCUS ON IN INFIDELITY THERAPY
At Adaptations Therapy Institute, infidelity therapy is grounded in attachment science, trauma awareness, and relational accountability. The goal is not only to address the event itself, but to understand the emotional and relational patterns surrounding it.
Our work together often includes:
Establishing Accountability and Clarity
For trust to begin rebuilding, there needs to be honesty, responsibility, and transparency. Therapy helps clarify what accountability looks like in your specific relationship and how both partners can engage in the repair process.
Processing the Impact of Betrayal
Both partners are supported in expressing and understanding the emotional impact of the infidelity. This includes creating space for hurt, anger, guilt, grief, and confusion without rushing past these experiences.
Rebuilding Emotional Safety and Trust
Trust is not rebuilt overnight, it develops through consistent, reliable, and transparent interactions over time. Therapy supports the gradual restoration of emotional safety through communication, boundaries, and shared understanding.
Regulating the Nervous System During Conflict
Infidelity often intensifies emotional reactions. Therapy helps partners recognize fight, flight, or shutdown responses and develop tools to stay more grounded during difficult conversations.
OUR APPROACH
Adaptations Therapy Institute specializes in relational work, with infidelity therapy as a focused area of care. Sessions are guided by PACT-informed couples therapy, integrating attachment theory, neuroscience, and practical relational skills to support healing after betrayal.
Infidelity therapy is structured and collaborative. Sessions slow down interactions so both partners can better understand emotional triggers, communication patterns, and the underlying dynamics that may have contributed to disconnection in the relationship.
A key part of the process is creating emotional safety while also maintaining accountability. Both partners are given space to speak openly, while also taking responsibility for their role in rebuilding trust. The goal is not to assign blame, but to support honest repair, clarity, and informed decision-making.
If you and your partner are working through the impact of infidelity, therapy can provide a grounded, supportive space to process what happened, understand each other more deeply, and decide how to move forward with intention.
Why Couples Therapy Is Private Pay
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Even when a diagnosis is assigned, a lot of plans explicitly exclude marriage or relationship counseling as "not medically necessary." Practices that bill insurance for couples work are often quietly billing it as individual therapy for one partner, which limits what we can actually address together in the room.
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To bill insurance for couples therapy, one partner has to be labeled with a mental health diagnosis, and the relationship struggle gets filed under their individual treatment. That's not how relationships work. Private pay means we can treat the relationship itself as the client, not one partner's paperwork.
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No diagnosis code, no session notes, nothing about your relationship gets sent to a third party or attached to either of your medical records.
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Relationships don't heal on a schedule set by a claims adjuster. Private pay means the two of you and I decide what pace and duration actually fits what you're working through.
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Couples work often needs flexibility, an extra session before a hard conversation, a longer session after a rupture. A smaller, private-pay caseload is what makes that kind of responsiveness possible.
WHAT TO EXPECT
Reaching out for therapy after infidelity is a meaningful and often courageous step. Whether you are seeking support as an individual or as a couple, our work begins with understanding your experience: what happened, how it impacted each of you, and what feels most important to address now. At Adaptations Therapy Institute, therapy is collaborative, thoughtful, and grounded in research-supported approaches that support healing, accountability, and clarity over time.
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The first step is a consultation or initial session where we begin to understand what brings you to therapy and what you hope to get out of the process. For couples, this often includes hearing each partner’s perspective on the infidelity, the current state of the relationship, and any immediate concerns.
This session is not about solving everything right away. It is about creating a grounded starting point where both partners feel heard, and where the therapeutic process can begin with clarity and direction
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In the early phase of infidelity therapy, sessions focus on understanding the emotional impact of what occurred and how it has affected trust, communication, and connection.
We begin to explore:
Each partner’s emotional experience of the infidelity
The meaning and context of what happened within the relationship
Immediate needs for safety, boundaries, and communication
Patterns in the relationship that may have contributed to disconnection
What each partner needs in order to continue engaging in the process
These sessions help slow things down so that reactions are not driving the conversation. Instead, we create space for reflection, honesty, and structured dialogue that supports understanding rather than escalation.
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Our clinicians are trained in attachment-based and trauma-informed models that support emotional safety while encouraging meaningful growth.
Therapy with us is:
• Insight-oriented
• Relational
• Practical
• Compassionate
• Change-focusedWe will move at a pace that is respectful of your nervous system while still helping you move forward.
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Most clients begin with 45-60 minute weekly sessions, as consistency allows therapy to be effective and momentum to build. As progress occurs, session frequency can be adjusted collaboratively.
Sessions are available:
• In person in downtown Ann Arbor
• Virtually across Michigan
• Virtually in Hawaii -
For couples, infidelity therapy focuses on both repair and clarity. Some couples choose to work toward rebuilding the relationship, while others use therapy to better understand their situation and make informed decisions about the future.
In either case, therapy supports:
Honest and guided conversations between partners
Clarification of needs, boundaries, and expectations
Development of accountability and transparency
Processing emotions without escalating into repeated conflict
Exploration of whether and how trust can be rebuilt
Both partners are supported in speaking openly while also taking responsibility for their role in the process. The goal is not to force a specific outcome, but to create the conditions where meaningful decisions can be made with awareness and care.
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Infidelity therapy is a space for understanding, processing, and working through the impact of betrayal. It is not about assigning blame, rushing forgiveness, or guaranteeing reconciliation.
Therapy is:
A structured process for exploring what happened and why
A space for both partners to be heard and supported
A collaborative effort to rebuild communication and trust
A place to gain clarity about the future of the relationship
Therapy is not:
A quick fix or immediate resolution to complex relational issues
A guarantee that a relationship will stay together
A process that ignores accountability or minimizes harm
A one-size-fits-all path with a predetermined outcome
Each relationship is different, and the therapy process is tailored to the specific needs, history, and goals of the individuals involved.
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The relationship between client and therapist matters deeply. If for any reason it does not feel like the right match, we will help guide you toward other trusted resources.
Your care is always the priority.
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Couples therapy is offered on a private pay basis, which allows sessions to stay focused on your relationship rather than insurance limitations; we also provide superbills that you can submit to your insurance provider for possible out-of-network reimbursement, giving you more flexibility while still accessing specialized care.